The other day I went over to NMB's house to hang out with him and his wife. Their daughter greeted me with a hug and a kiss when I walked in. I just think that's really cool. I love borrowing other people's kids. I like knowing that she likes me and I'm not disrupting her life in some weird way when I show up and steal her dad's attention. His wife made dinner. I played Bananagrams with her while he made brownies. He distracted us with the brownie batter on the beater. We had brownies and after the kid was in bed, NMB and I made good use of the bedroom while his wife played video games in the next room. That's code for sex, by the way. I had sex with my boyfriend while his wife played video games in the next room. Afterwards, we all played Cards Against Humanity. Then I got a back rub.
Did you get all that? I got dinner, games, brownie batter and brownies, sex, more games and a back rub. All of that was in addition to great company for the evening. This is what being poly gets me. Life is good. NMB sent me home with a couple brownies, one of which was meant for my hubby. He liked it. The fact that my husband likes my boyfriend's brownies makes me giggle. As NMB said it, "There's not many people who can make that precise statement!" I replied "It's a point of pride."
An observation I made while hanging out with NMB and family... while I feel totally welcome and at ease around them both, I can see how hanging out with a married couple could be intimidating for someone who is dating one of them. The inside jokes from the long shared history, the knowing what the other is thinking, the shared domestic activities... those are a powerful part of a long term relationship that could be hard to see for someone on the outside with a romantic interest in one of them. In my case, I liked seeing the two of them together. They are cute. I like seeing them interact in the same way that I like seeing any positive successful couple interact. I have a similar situation in my life and it's easy for me to understand their connection. However, for someone with no experience with marriage or a long term relationship, this could be difficult to understand and therefore intimidating. I resolve to keep this in mind while meeting metamours in the future. I hope to keep them as at ease as I am around NMB and family.
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